I am a page-turner.
I’ve spent a favorable portion of my 22 years actively searching for who I am and who I want to become. I’ve arrived at many vague, semi-accurate categorizations, but none that have the potential to thickly layer my motivated processes and tendencies.
One night during my post-college stint at my parents’ Akron home, I asked my father to play his piano for me. Although it was a different piano, it was far from an unfamiliar experience for both of us. During my younger years, when I had an intense lack of appreciation for sleep, my father used his piano-playing ability as a lullaby. It worked beautifully – and could be the sole explanation for my life’s immersion into the world of music. That, however, is a different story entirely – quite possibly its own book.
Back then, about the time I learned to ride a bike, our house was rather modest; my bedroom was within earshot of the living room, and most of the rooms for that matter. It was a struggle to keep me contained by a closed door when there were other things going on [which hasn’t changed much]. I especially wanted to be near my father’s piano, situated on the inside wall of our all-white, no-kids-allowed living room, while he was punching away on the ivory. Being just a tot, I was small enough to crawl underneath without disturbing the pedals or the notes which vibrated the underbelly’s smooth surface. I would lay there until I fell asleep – somewhere between the middle of Elton John’s Yellow Brick Road book and the end of Meatloaf’s Heaven Can Wait – my most-requested song. I may not have understood the music’s passion at the time, but I think somehow it understood me. I could lay there for hours on end, feeling each note wrap itself around me and then come together to form the most perfect sense of paralyzing comfort.
As I grew and began to learn the instrument myself, I was able to follow the notes of the book as my father played what were hits in the days before I was even a thought. The piano’s bench was off-limits, both because the hinged-top opened in a manner conducive to pinching child-size fingers and because the seat was easy to scratch; we were led to believe that even breathing too hard around it’s polished surface would be to risk permanent damage. However, when my father was playing, I was free to join him without exception, which I always did. I would follow every finger-stroke, determined to find the perfect instant between the last resonating sound on the page and the first on the following spread. I had it down to a science; grab the very edge of the page, flip, and flatten the book, all without sacrificing a single sound. My father was proud, and I think those times when we shared that bench meant more to both of us than either could ever express in words.
So, on the aforementioned evening when I requested my first song in many, many years and my father sat down at his piano to appease me, I had no idea I would also discover what I had been searching so long to find. Purely by accident, my father told me exactly who I am. As he reached the end of the page and I lay there, soaking-up the sounds, he stopped to turn the page of his book. An instant later, he said, “I need my page-turner,” and looked to me with a smile.
Although I’m sure he only meant to verbalize the convenience of having me to turn his page, he said so much more.
I am, indeed a page-turner. Although it started with my father and his piano, it has grown to encompass many aspects of my life. I do not sit on the sidelines, and I do not want to be the star. I’m somewhere in-between, someplace where I can help others to shine without needing all the attention. I’m somewhat like a life-long hostess at my own party; I love to provide happiness. I am personally satisfied only by means of satisfying others.
In the long-run, I think I get this from my mother. Though we are very different in so many ways, I am intrinsically inclined to be content only when I’ve been able to provide that for others – I am, inherently, my mother.
It does appear that the life of a page-turner is modest. This is inarguably untrue. It is indescribably exhausting and time-consuming to base your own existence on the happiness of others. It’s like a rollercoaster and I’m blindfolded; it is both thrilling and undulant. There is no possible way to predict what the next turn will be, and sometimes I want nothing more than to prepare for my life. Unfortunately, there is no means by which to do so.
On the other hand, I don’t know of a life I would rather have; for this reason, I will be the best page-turner I possibly can. It boggles my mind to imagine whose pages I could be turning someday.